This isn’t about the road traffic lights……

In my previous blog, I noted that I will share this the Principle, which is closely related to the Principle of Withdrawal and Deposit. I first came across this insightful principle from the remarkable Man of God, Apostle Moses Mukisa.

The Traffic Lights Principle is a simple yet powerful tool that can help nurture healthier relationships in all spheres of life. It draws parallels with the familiar traffic lights: Green for Go, Orange for Caution/on-set, and Red for Stop.

When applying this principle to relationships, consider the following approach:

Green Light: Always and start by giving THREE positive compliments or feedback to the other person. Acknowledge and appreciate their strengths and virtues.

Orange Light: Next, provide TWO areas of feedback that may not be excellent but aren’t necessarily negative either. These areas might require some attention or improvement.

Red Light: Finally, share ONE unfavorable feedback with the other person, focusing on an aspect that needs addressing or correction.

This principle teaches us to emphasize the positive aspects of individuals rather than dwelling on their flaws. It encourages us to uplift and compliment those around us more frequently than we criticize. By adopting this approach, we can cultivate remarkably healthy relationships.

For further insights and a deeper exploration of this principle, I recommend watching the Love and Marriage Series by Apostle Moses and Pastor Ary Mukisa on the Worship Harvest Channel on YouTube. You’ll find valuable wisdom and blessings there.

Let’s commit to nurturing healthy relationships through the Traffic Lights Principle and continue to spread positivity and encouragement.

Until next time, stay growing and glowing.

Thank you for your comments & feedback in advance

I recently learned about the “Principle of Deposit and Withdrawal” from an inspirational figure Apostle Moses Mukisa. This principle sheds light on how to navigate challenging conversations with our loved ones, particularly when it involves providing constructive and most times undesirable feedback and similar situations and ensure the love remains if l should say.

Affectionately known as “Ap.Mo,” he shared this valuable insight in the context of relationships, not finances, although I’m sure similar principles can apply to money matters. However, for now, let’s focus on this concept.

Before delving into the meaning of the “Principle of Deposit and Withdrawal,” I’d like to mention that Ap.Mo also discussed another fascinating principle related to relationships, which I’ll call the “Principle of Traffic Lights.” I’ll cover this in my next blog post, so stay tuned.

Now, let’s explore the “Principle of Deposit and Withdrawal.”

Deposit and Withdrawal Defined:

Deposit (in my own words, not Ap.Mo’s) involves consistently offering positive feedback, compliments, expressions of gratitude, and acts of kindness to the people we care about. It’s about continually infusing positivity into others, especially as opportunities arise. Don’t hesitate to shower others with kindness.

This concept brings to mind the Bible verse Proverbs 11:25 (NKJV), which states, “The generous soul will be made rich, And he who waters will also be watered himself.” In other words, keep pouring goodness into others without reservation.

Withdrawal, on the other hand, entails addressing areas of improvement, providing constructive feedback, and offering corrections or less-than-favorable input or feedback about someone. In simpler terms, it involves discussing things that may not be pleasant to hear.

The key point to remember here is that when you consistently make deposits into someone’s emotional bank account, it becomes much easier to engage in a withdrawal conversation later on. Whether you’re giving or receiving feedback, this approach not only eases the conversation but also ensures the other person is more likely to listen and understand without becoming defensive. It shows that you’re coming from a place of goodwill.

Let’s make it a habit to deposit positivity into others continuously. Whether it’s your friends, partners, colleagues, or neighbors, let’s invest in our “people bank.”

Don’t forget to check out my next blog post for another insightful principle.

Until next time, stay growing and glowing.

Thank you for your comments & feedback in advance.

TikTok is actually an informative App (before you click away, let me clarify that this blog isn’t about TikTok). While it’s often associated with sharing fun and entertaining videos, it’s also a goldmine of valuable information. If you use the app with a purpose, you’ll stumble upon some truly enlightening content that can enrich your knowledge and even nurture your spirituality. Personally, that’s exactly what I aim for when I’m on TikTok.

And that is how I landed on the PRINCIPLE OF PROGRESS from one of the videos by Insights Money Motivation page.

What is the PROGRESS PRINCIPLE?

The secret to getting things done is making little progress every day.

Take a few minutes daily and build on what is important to you. It’s not about getting things done but rather making progress on what matters daily.

It’s about consistently making progress in the things that truly matter to you. Whether it’s dedicating just five minutes, ten minutes, or fifteen minutes, these little daily efforts accumulate into significant changes over time.

Little moves add up to major change.

We’ve all been guilty of waiting for the “perfect” moment to start something. We set aside a particular day to begin a project, only to find ourselves falling short of our goals. That’s because life doesn’t work that way.

The real secret is making a little progress every day.

Want to finish that book? Read a few pages daily instead of saving it all for a Saturday binge to think you will read all 200 pages at once. Looking to get in shape? Exercise daily instead of banking on one big workout event like the MTN marathon. Want to connect spiritually, Read a chapter of bible daily without a sign from your shepherd.
And let’s not forget about financial goals. Rather than hoping for a lottery win, save a bit of money every day – it’s a sustainable approach.

Under the school of leadership – Harvest institute, we are given assignments on a monthly basis and most of it involves reading at least two books, but it’s funny how most of us wait for the final week to read all the two books. Imagine the difference it would make if we put in daily effort over the course of the month.

So, what’s the point I’m trying to drive home here? Simple: daily effort is the key to progress in whatever matters most to you.
And yes, that includes nurturing your relationships, too!

Remember, effort daily equals progress daily.
Wishing you the best of luck as you embrace this principle and apply it to your life. You’ve got this!

Until next time, stay growing and glowing.

I’ve been engrossed in the book of Proverbs lately—still going strong. Interestingly, I recently discovered that it has 31 chapters, which makes it perfect for a chapter-a-day reading approach. That’s the strategy I’m currently using.

The initial chapters of Proverbs delve deep into the essence and significance of Wisdom. It’s truly remarkable how I’ve come to understand why King Solomon, when granted one wish, chose wisdom. What’s even more intriguing is that you and I can adopt this same desire. Unlike the past, God might not come to you in a dream,(He could….) but His presence is everywhere.

Before I dive into the specifics, let me share my favorite wisdom verse: Proverbs 4:7, which states, “Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore, get wisdom.” In essence, wisdom is the most important thing you can possess.

My focus is centered on the reasons behind pursuing wisdom, the “why” of it all. I’m excited that you’re reading my blog, and I’d like to take this moment to share something important—you, my dear reader, should crave for wisdom, perhaps even if you haven’t realized it yet.

Why should we seek wisdom? Why ask for it as Solomon did? The answers are all found within the pages of Proverbs. So, let’s continue our journey into the wisdom that flows from the pen of the wisest man who ever lived.

Benefits of Wisdom;

1. It keeps you away from Simplicity. Proverbs 1:22
   I am certain you don’t want to be a simple person.
2. You will dwell in Safety. Proverbs 1:33, 3:24
3. Happiness is your portion. Proverbs 3:13
4. Your days are lengthened. Proverbs 3:16
5. Enduring Riches. We all want lasting riches……Proverbs 3:16, 8:18
6. Sweet Sleep ☺️☺️ Proverbs 3:24
7. Inheritance of Glory. Proverbs 3:35
8. Promotion. Proverbs 4:8
9. Honor. Proverbs 4:8
10. Ornament of Grace & Crown of Glory Proverbs 4:9
11. Wealth. Proverbs 8:21
12. Blessings. Proverbs 8:34
13. Life….Do you feel dead within,May pursue wisdom ?! Proverbs 8:35
14. Favor. Proverbs 8:35
15. Your days are multiplied. Proverbs 9:11
16. You make your parents glad. That’s a goal for me ☺️. Proverbs 10:1

And the benefits are endless……

It’s intriguing how wisdom is referred to as “she” in the book of Proverbs… but I digress.

While I haven’t uncovered all the benefits of wisdom within the pages of Proverbs, my main point is this: if you’re on a quest for something valuable, make it wisdom. And if you’re wondering who provides wisdom, find your answer in James 1:5-6.(please go read that verse)

Moreover, it’s unwise to underestimate the importance of wisdom—just take a look at Proverbs 1:7.(open that bible App & read this verse)

You might wonder, “How can I acquire wisdom?” Well, begin by delving into the book of Proverbs, written by the wisest of all, and tell me if you don’t find yourself significantly wiser.

In conclusion:
Proverbs 8:11 reminds us that wisdom is more precious than rubies, and all our desires can’t compare to it.

Proverbs 9:10 states that the foundation of wisdom is reverence for the LORD, and understanding comes from knowing the Holy One.

Until next time, stay growing and glowing.

Thank you for your comments & feedback in advance ☺️

My Favorite Book – “The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth” by John Maxwell, would be a good one for you to read if you haven’t already 😁. Among the important laws in this book, one that I really like is the “Law of the Rubber Band.”

I thought I will just highlight key points from this law as written by Maxwell.

We often feel like we don’t have enough time in a day, like there’s too much to do. This is why I want to talk about the Law of the Rubber Band. It’s about making our minds bigger and doing more with the 24 hours we get each day.

The summary of the law is that Rubber bands are useful only when they are stretched! The same can also be said of us.

Imagine a rubber band. It’s only useful when it’s stretched. We find new things about life when we step out of our comfort zone. Growth happens when we challenge ourselves.

Staying comfortable doesn’t help us get better. You can’t improve if you don’t change.

One tip to stretch your self – The space between where you are now and where you could be gets smaller when you read books. Books help us learn and grow.

Many of us are okay with just being okay. Edmund Gaudet said that “Average” is the top of the bottom, the best of the worst, the bottom of the top, the worst of the best. Which of these are you?

Instead of just wishing or waiting, we need to look inside ourselves for reasons to start doing things.

Remember, the choices we make and the things we do shape our lives. As we get older, we have more responsibility for where we are. But we can also choose to change, learn from our experiences, and find new paths.

The best times for growth are when we do things we’ve never done before, when we challenge ourselves. This takes courage. But it helps us become better, just like a rubber band that stretches. It’s like what George Elliot said: “It’s never too late to be what you might have been.”

Mediocrity means settling for less than our best.

Being open to new things and trying harder than you thought, could help you make a difference. How? By always aiming to do a bit more. Keep leaving your comfort zone and trying to do more.

Have a willingness to stretch. Do more than you believe you are capable of, and you will make impact. How? By continually focusing on making the next stretch.

“Søren Kierkegaard said that “A possibility is a hint from God. One must follow it.” when you have a chance to do something, you should take it.” — This means we should follow opportunities and allowances extended our way.

As an example, I’m currently writing this blog post as late as 11:30pm EAT, which is a bit of a stretch for me since it’s already bedtime. But guess what, I am enjoying it.

When you feel unhappy with where you are, use that feeling to start moving again, even if it’s a small step.

You have to give up to go up. Just like how you need to stretch a rubber band to make it work well and become relevant.

Until next time, stay growing and glowing.

Thank you for your comment & feedback in advance 🤗

Its all about love…that used to be a maxim for 104.1 Power FM back then…I am not sure what it is now but great good old times.

I am currently a student at Harvest Institute – School of Leadership and on a monthly basis, we have practical assignments to embark on. In the Month of April 2023, we had to identify and undertake a missional frontier – Which Is What I choose to call in this blog – COMMUNITIES OF LOVE

So, what are communities of love?!

Let’s keep it simple, because its all about love. Right where you are, home, work, Street, beach etc., who around you is in need? Whoever you have thought of, is your community of love.
Whoever you can support or serve in any way, to impact and make a difference in their life, is your community of love, because we are all called to serve!!

It has nothing to do with position, title, rank, physical appearance etc., it has more or else everything to do with making a difference in some else’s life even with just a word of encouragement, paying for their flight to Maldives, praying with them, providing for their basic needs if your able, listening to them, visiting them, sending that encouraging text etc.

Back to the assignment mentioned earlier, we decided to visit a group of vulnerable mothers in Kamwokya (a suburb in Kampala the capital city of Uganda), collected resources and shopped for their basic needs like food, soap, name it. We then met with the mothers one Saturday morning, spent about three hours listening to their stories, we were deeply moved by the experiences and challenges they face, but also we grew in wisdom…..those 3hours, was all the difference the mothers needed that day. A group of young lads and lasses, just encouraging them, praying with them, laughing, gifting them, and playing with them.

You and I need to birth healing – spiritual, emotionally, financially, in our communities of love, because we have the power to, the time to, the ability to, the resources to, above all the blessing to.
Some of the pointers to communities of love are vulnerable Single mothers, less-privileged kids in the neighborhood, the elderly, the disabled, that lonely friend etc. These and more are surrounding us everywhere.

How can you support them? Could you help the elderly wash their clothes? Buy basic needs hamper for a home? Teach the community children maybe once a week about any topic to grow their mindset, Share the love of God with them? Do you have extra clothes you can give out?

Key to note; money is not the only thing you can give! Time is given, a word of encouragement etc.

It’s only when we serve others that we have purpose. Someone (unknown to me) defined purpose as your gift to humanity. My church – Worship Harvest Ministries teaches that you are living in wilderness if all you ever care about is yourself and your household.

Apostle Moses Mukisa wrote in his book SSFG ‘Until your resources are impacting others in a positive way, you are still poor. You still have a poverty mindset…its about making those around you feel loved and special even in their station of life.

So, WHO IS YOUR COMMUNITY OF LOVE?
Reach out.

Until next time, stay growing and glowing!!

Tab my next blog and the one before. I look forward to your feedback.🤗

I am reading and re-reading a book titled STRAIGHT FORWARD FINANCIAL GROWTH by Apostle Moses Mukisa, one of the greatest writers in this nation. Get yourself a copy.

In one of the chapters – The Generosity of Kings, he writes about Alexander the Great, who decided to gift a beggar by the roadside gold coins and not a copper coin as requested by the beggar and when asked by his courtiers why he gave gold not copper to a mere beggar, his response I quote; “Copper coins suit the beggar’s need but gold coins suit Alexander’s giving”. Let’s first take that in.

Ap. Mo as we commonly call in the space of Worship Harvest Ministries further wrote that the emperor chose to give according to his royal standard not to the beggar’s standard!!
So, when you give, whose standard are you using?

As mentioned in my earlier blogs, I am a student at Harvest Institute School of leadership, and we were assigned to randomly select a learner in our class and gift them with royalty. It was a hectic assignment because the aim was to give to your standard,not to the standard of the gift recipient. We all got into research mode – wondering what royalty giving is.

The Clarity was simple – GIVE TO YOUR GREATEST STANDARD. Your Standard, Your brand. Royalty giving is giving out of honor.
So, when you give, whose standard do you use?

Value your identity as you choose to be generous.
Give through the eyes of love not through the eyes of cost.
May we never forget that Money is not the only thing you can give.

What can you give that is unique to you? We all have something to give.
To being generous Royal givers….

Till next time, Stay growing and glowing!!

Tab my next blog and the one before, l look forward to your feedback.🤗

TAKE A MINUTE;
Take a minute to appreciate the following ;

1. Blood Donors; you just never know when someone else’s blood saves you or a relative of yours. This month my mother got into a bad accident and we needed lots of blood, I can only imagine what it would be like, if the blood bank was empty.
   Donate blood, because you save a life and that difference is everything to some one else!!
2. Ambulance Drivers : They are either going to pick up an emergency patient or taking one, to the hospital. Learn to give way!! Again some one’s life is at stake…it could be a friend or relative of yours, you just never know…so create path for that ambulance,every second counts.
3. Your Presence: in trying times, even without finances or any other resources to offer, your presence can make a difference. Taking care of my mother in the hospital for a fortnight, the presence of friends and family kept us going and the burden seemed light and healing seemed closer and closer!!!The jokes at the balcony, the laughter in the hospital corridors, the dances in the hospital parking lot…..it could be anything. Next time a friend of yours is going through a hectic time, just show up, even 10 mins make a difference.
4. Free Oxygen: Ikr?! Seeing my mother struggle to breathe and needed generated oxygen for close to 2 weeks hit differently. Take a minute to thank God for the free oxygen your breathing even as you read this. It reminds me of that song….it’s your breathe in our lungs, so we will choose to praise you.
5. God: Only HE SAVEs!!
   May we never forget that.

It’s the small things that take up a lot of space.

Till next time, stay growing and glowing.

I grew up very independent minded for reasons best accorded to my childhood experiences. I had to figure out and make choices on one too many things. Being independent minded is a good quality and I am grateful but it can also have its down side. Its only wise to also know the tail side of anything.

Being independent minded unfortunately kept me very independent from my friends, family inclusive. I love my friends and I am mostly a people person, but my independence walls have always been so high like Uganda since 1962, I don’t let people in and I barely ask for help yet we all need each other not forgetting that is how relationships are birthed. That has been a great down fall and I have lost a couple of great friends and failed to connect with some strong networks in my walks of life due to this attribute. Let’s get one thing straight, its not pride or conceit or self-importance, as it may seem to some, its just close to anything like….. an innate attribute that one has to deal with to become a better version of themselves.

Moving on, I now acknowledge that life thrives in relationships and connections (I recently wrote about the different helpers/men we all need in our lives, on this very blog, please find it, it’s a good read ,trust me) You will never be a success on your own.
So, I have been on a self – improvement journey to acknowledge, treasure and open a few doors of being vulnerable in my friendships. However, I had to acknowledge that friends come in different COLORS and this had helped me to know how best to relate and not feel entitled to anyone. At the end of the day, the unpopular opinion is ….No one owes you anything. With this mindset, its easy to love freely.

So I am sharing below the different types of friends in our lives as shared by TD JAKES a favorite Preacher among many others. My desire is for us all to recognize the different people in our lives and take none for granted because they all have a purpose to play in our lives.

1. Confidants: These are always few. They love you unconditionally. They are into you, whether you are up or down. They are in for the long haul in all seasons. You can’t go far in your purpose if you don’t have any of these people. They fill your glass whether its half empty or fully empty. They correct, confront and rebuke you in love. They are a key that unlocks much in your life. They mentor you. They should be able to pour into you. They help you reach your destiny. It would be a blessing to have your life partner in this category…
2. Constituent: They are not into you; they are into what you are for. They are for what you are for. They are your constituent. They are for what you stand for. If they find someone else, that meets their agenda, they will move on from you, because they were never for you but they were just for what you were for. Sometimes, especially in brokenness, we mistake them for our confidants and think they are for us but they are just for what you are for. It was about ,the causes ,you stood for. Kind reminder, your favorite employer and work mates fall in this category…make peace with it.
3. Comrades; they are not for you nor are they for what you are, they are just against what you are against. They can team up with you to fight a shared opposition and when the victory is done, they move on.

Make peace when the constituents and comrades leave, because their purpose has been made very clear.
Only share your dreams with Confidants, because this is the only category that will never leave.

May we find our CONFIDANTS.

Until next time, stay growing and glowing.

The Law of the Mirror — Seeing Your Value Before Adding It

Recently, I’ve been reading The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by my favorite author, John Maxwell.
If clever and smart could take human form, in my world, it would be him.
I highly recommend reading all his books—they are rich with wisdom that will transform your perspective on life, leadership, and personal growth.

Among the many powerful principles in this particular book, one law resonated deeply with me: The Law of the Mirror. While I encourage you to explore all the laws Maxwell shares, this one struck a special chord within me—and I believe it’s worth sharing.

The Law of the Mirror

You must see value in yourself to add value to yourself. — John Maxwell

Take a moment to read that again. You must see value in yourself… before you can add value to yourself.

And here’s the truth that hit me: before we think about adding value to others, we must first ask—are we adding value to ourselves? If we have not invested in our own growth, confidence, and well-being, how can we truly pour into others?

The reality is simple: if you haven’t built your own value, you won’t have much to give away.

The Power of Self-Value

Too often, we focus so much on being there for others that we completely neglect ourselves. But this has to change—starting today.

Your self-image sets the ceiling for your performance.
If you see yourself as less, you will act as less, and the world will respond accordingly.

Here’s a sobering truth: the value you place on yourself is usually the value others place on you.
This means your priority should not be to obsess over what others think of you—but rather to take an honest look at what you think of yourself.

God created you with extraordinary potential. If you underestimate your worth, the world won’t rush to correct you. If you want to become the person you are capable of being, you must first believe you can.

Before Others — Start with You

When you add value to yourself, you are better equipped to add value to others. Interestingly, doing something good for someone else often boosts your own sense of worth—and in turn, others begin to value you more. But it all begins with seeing your own value first.

We all want our lives to matter, but it’s difficult to live with purpose if we don’t first believe we matter.

The One-Word Strategy

Here’s a practical exercise from Maxwell’s teaching:
If you could choose only one word to describe yourself, what would it be?

Mine is STRONG.

What you focus on expands. Choose your word carefully, then make it your personal affirmation.

Mirror Moments

A Mirror Moment is when you stand before the mirror and speak truth into the person you see. This is your chance to affirm who you are—starting with the powerful words “I AM.”

One of my favorite quotes comes from Johnnetta McSwain:

“In the mirror moment, you get a chance to be anyone you want to be.”

This is where you create a turnaround statement—words that give you permission to step into your desired self-image. My personal favorite? I AM ENOUGH. I AM WORTHY.

I practice my mirror moment either before bed or first thing in the morning—it’s how I anchor my day. Over time, I’ve discovered it can be a secret weapon against insecurity. If you’re feeling doubtful, look in that mirror and declare the exact opposite of what you fear. It’s powerful.

So, Who Do You See in the Mirror?

That person has so much to offer the world. Somewhere, someone is waiting for them to show up fully.

Don’t just pass by the mirror today. Stop, look closely, and speak life into that reflection. Then watch what happens.

Until next time—keep growing and keep glowing