The Coat of Many Colors – FRIENDS

I grew up very independent minded for reasons best accorded to my childhood experiences. I had to figure out and make choices on one too many things. Being independent minded is a good quality and I am grateful but it can also have its down side. Its only wise to also know the tail side of anything.

Being independent minded unfortunately kept me very independent from my friends, family inclusive. I love my friends and I am mostly a people person, but my independence walls have always been so high like Uganda since 1962, I don’t let people in and I barely ask for help yet we all need each other not forgetting that is how relationships are birthed. That has been a great down fall and I have lost a couple of great friends and failed to connect with some strong networks in my walks of life due to this attribute. Let’s get one thing straight, its not pride or conceit or self-importance, as it may seem to some, its just close to anything like….. an innate attribute that one has to deal with to become a better version of themselves.

Moving on, I now acknowledge that life thrives in relationships and connections (I recently wrote about the different helpers/men we all need in our lives, on this very blog, please find it, it’s a good read ,trust me) You will never be a success on your own.
So, I have been on a self – improvement journey to acknowledge, treasure and open a few doors of being vulnerable in my friendships. However, I had to acknowledge that friends come in different COLORS and this had helped me to know how best to relate and not feel entitled to anyone. At the end of the day, the unpopular opinion is ….No one owes you anything. With this mindset, its easy to love freely.

So I am sharing below the different types of friends in our lives as shared by TD JAKES a favorite Preacher among many others. My desire is for us all to recognize the different people in our lives and take none for granted because they all have a purpose to play in our lives.

1. Confidants: These are always few. They love you unconditionally. They are into you, whether you are up or down. They are in for the long haul in all seasons. You can’t go far in your purpose if you don’t have any of these people. They fill your glass whether its half empty or fully empty. They correct, confront and rebuke you in love. They are a key that unlocks much in your life. They mentor you. They should be able to pour into you. They help you reach your destiny. It would be a blessing to have your life partner in this category…
2. Constituent: They are not into you; they are into what you are for. They are for what you are for. They are your constituent. They are for what you stand for. If they find someone else, that meets their agenda, they will move on from you, because they were never for you but they were just for what you were for. Sometimes, especially in brokenness, we mistake them for our confidants and think they are for us but they are just for what you are for. It was about ,the causes ,you stood for. Kind reminder, your favorite employer and work mates fall in this category…make peace with it.
3. Comrades; they are not for you nor are they for what you are, they are just against what you are against. They can team up with you to fight a shared opposition and when the victory is done, they move on.

Make peace when the constituents and comrades leave, because their purpose has been made very clear.
Only share your dreams with Confidants, because this is the only category that will never leave.

May we find our CONFIDANTS.

Until next time, stay growing and glowing.